So, it’s been a while since you dated or maybe you’re an online dating warrior, weary of the tiresome array of swipes and clicks that often lead to even worse dates. Well, here are 10 warning signs to look for before your next dating adventure.
- Profile says: Athletic Body Type
We are all subject to a little exaggeration about weight or height, but online dating profiles can sometimes take that too far. Translations: Athletic/curvy may mean fat! 5’11 is 5’9! Add 10-15 pounds to every weight and subtract 2 inches from the listed height just to be safe.
- Looking for Friends
RUN! Seriously, don’t turn around! Do not look back! You are looking for a date! Scroll past the guy looking for friends, unless you are ready for the long haul, meaning you catch feelings and he says he is not ready. How much time have you got while he “figures out how he really feels” or “doesn’t know if this is right” all while hooking up with other “friends”?
- Profile says: “I am struggling with my sexuality”
Do you really have time to help him sort this out? Sexuality, whatever he decides should be something he figures out before getting in a relationship and some would argue before dating. While it may workout and you end up happily ever after, you could also end up feeling like a phase.
Profile says: “No Drama, No Games, No Crazies”
Again RUN! Like attracts like. People that claim to hate drama are speaking from experience. There are a trail of angry exes who have been left holding the big bag of drama THEY created and then refused to deal with. It’s easier just to edit their online dating profile than to talk to their “crazy” ex who didn’t want them dating other people.
Profile says: Mis Spellings, bad grammar, i, …
Do I really need to elaborate? Your online dating profile is your calling card to a potential partner. Either they don’t feel the need to put much effort into it or they are genuinely uneducated, both situations which are not the best precursors to a loving relationship.
- Profile says: The exotic animals, the full passport, adrenaline junkie
This man is not satisfied in his life, everything MUST be an exciting adventure. However, that is not how relationships work. They are sometimes tedious and sometimes love means having to wash the dishes or take out the trash, neither of which are exciting. There’s also the point at which he becomes bored with you!!
- Profile says: Blank spaces, the unanswered questions, profile questions left blank.
There are several ways to look at this, none of them good. We already covered your profile is your calling card to a potential significant other. If it’s not even filled out this person obviously isn’t making much effort, which is the best case scenario. Another way to look at is they have something to hide, and you really, really don’t want to know the answers to those questions.
- Profile says: Shirtless pics, Harley, sports car lean…
This guy has a six pack of abs, a shiny new sports car, and maybe it’s parked in front of a really nice house. The most important thing to him, is how good HE looks, with the emphasis always on him. He will judge you by how well good you look perched on the hood of his car and, if he can brag about the “model” he bagged at his next boys’ night out. If you’re looking for something more than a “Aren’t you happy I took you for a ride in my maserati?” after the first date, keep looking!
- Profile says: The Negative Nate/Reformed Party Guy “I am over the party scene”…
So, he’s been around the block more than a few times…no harm in that you think. We all had our wild 20’s, except this guy had his wild 20’s,30’s,40’s, and judging from the photos he’s posted it’s hard to spot the reform. For the first date, he takes you to an 18+ bar and get’s wasted, but he “Totally, only dates girls that are at least 21 now, unless she’s really, really hot. I, mean, c’mon, I’m 40 now.”….Do you really have time for this?
- Profile says: The Lister- I have a great job, I own my own house, I am a great guy…all that is missing is you….
This guy doesn’t want a real relationship, he’s trying to complete the set. He wants an accessory. He has a lot of great things, now he wants a great girlfriend who will be pretty, quiet, and won’t contradict him when he spends 20 hours a day at work with no phone calls. He bought you the dress you wanted, aren’t you happy? Aren’t you?…Really great guys don’t need to advertise like this.